
The Relationship Podcast - There has to be an I before We!
Welcome to The Paradox of Change, where three experienced therapists guide you through the essential truth:
I B4We - You have to have a relationship with yourself before you can have a relationship with others!
We believe in understanding your needs, boundaries, and capacity for connection - because the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself.
Meet Your Guides:
Elliot Burgess - Individual therapist specializing in men's mental health and the foundational "I" work that transforms all relationships
Lottie Passell-Syms - Sex and intimacy specialist dedicated to couples therapy, helping partners navigate the "We" journey through deeper connection and authentic communication and better sex.
Fi Sclif - Individual therapy and growth coaching focusing on mindset, money, and marketing
What You'll Discover:
• How self-discovery leads to relationship mastery
• Lottie's proven couples therapy techniques for rebuilding intimacy and trust
• Practical tools for infidelity recovery, trauma healing, and authentic communication
• Insights into masculinity, femininity, and identity development
• Strategies for navigating divorce, dating after trauma, and co-parenting
• Real conversations about narcissistic abuse recovery and neurodiversity in relationships
Our Philosophy:
Inspired by Carl Rogers' wisdom: "When a client accepts themselves as they are, the curious paradox is that they then change." Whether you're working on yourself individually or as a couple, transformation starts within - heal your relationship with yourself, and watch every other relationship in your life flourish.
Content You Can Expect:
• Deep-dive conversations with mental health experts
• Individual growth episodes ("The I Series") with Elliot, Fi & Lottie
• Couples-focused content ("The We Series") with Lottie's expertise
• "I B4We Deep Dives" - All three tackling complex topics together
• Real stories of resilience and recovery
• Practical tools you can use immediately
Whether you're single and working on yourself, in a relationship needing guidance, or navigating life transitions, we're here as your collaborative guides, not distant experts, but fellow travelers who've walked these paths.
New episodes every two weeks “|” 26+ episodes available now!
Subscribe and join our community of people choosing accountability and growth!
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Episodes
Labiaplasty - When the pursuit of perfection becomes dangerous!

Anorexia Survivor and Therapist Explains Signs and Help

Communication and Dating and what to learn
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Can a MONTH Without SEX Spark Romance Again? From Room Mates to Romance

Do Happy People Cheat? Our resident sex and intimacy therapist shares all... Episode #023
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Modern Man: A Therapist's Guide to Modern Male Mental Health

Infidelity - The Many Faces of Affairs

From Courage to Confidence: Lessons from 2024 on Therapy, Coaching, and Growth

Surviving Christmas and New Year

Can We Be Friends With Our X Lovers?

Men are losing their masculinity

CONFLICT is growth trying to happen. Lets talk about defensiveness

Why the F*CK would I talk about FEELINGS!

Finding Hope in the Darkest Moments Episode

The Road to Authenticity

Coaching and Therapy, what’s the difference with Rum Fotooki

Getting into Couple Work with Lottie and Sam Walton

How to find the love of your life after 60

Loving ourselves and our clients - episode

Understanding Autism: A Deep Dive with Therapist Karen Prouton #007

Our First Client Story - It Takes a Village to Support a Widower

We hunt those, who hunt children! With Adam Whittington & Chris Harvey #005

Unlocking Life's Purpose with Leilah Mirza | Holistic Healing

Face the fear and do it anyway. Scott Oshea and the Station Mill Fitness Club, #003

How fitness has direct benefits to sex performance
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