The Paradox of Change - There has to be an I before We!
Welcome to The Paradox of Change, where three experienced therapists guide you through the essential truth:
I B4We - You have to have a relationship with yourself before you can have a relationship with others!
We believe in understanding your needs, boundaries, and capacity for connection - because the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself.
Meet Your Guides:
Elliot Burgess - Individual therapist specializing in men's mental health and the foundational "I" work that transforms all relationships
Lottie Passell-Syms - Sex and intimacy specialist dedicated to couples therapy, helping partners navigate the "We" journey through deeper connection and authentic communication and better sex.
Fi Sclif - Individual therapy and growth coaching focusing on mindset, money, and marketing
What You'll Discover:
• How self-discovery leads to relationship mastery
• Lottie's proven couples therapy techniques for rebuilding intimacy and trust
• Practical tools for infidelity recovery, trauma healing, and authentic communication
• Insights into masculinity, femininity, and identity development
• Strategies for navigating divorce, dating after trauma, and co-parenting
• Real conversations about narcissistic abuse recovery and neurodiversity in relationships
Our Philosophy:
Inspired by Carl Rogers' wisdom: "When a client accepts themselves as they are, the curious paradox is that they then change." Whether you're working on yourself individually or as a couple, transformation starts within - heal your relationship with yourself, and watch every other relationship in your life flourish.
Content You Can Expect:
• Deep-dive conversations with mental health experts
• Individual growth episodes ("The I Series") with Elliot, Fi & Lottie
• Couples-focused content ("The We Series") with Lottie's expertise
• "I B4We Deep Dives" - All three tackling complex topics together
• Real stories of resilience and recovery
• Practical tools you can use immediately
Whether you're single and working on yourself, in a relationship needing guidance, or navigating life transitions, we're here as your collaborative guides, not distant experts, but fellow travelers who've walked these paths.
New episodes every two weeks “|” 26+ episodes available now!
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The Paradox of Change - There has to be an I before We!
Blindsided by Betrayal - Have you just found out about the affair?
Lottie and Elliot talk about being Blindsided by Betrayal: Navigating the Aftermath (We Talk Cheating): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z0PR4-GNlDE&t=196s
We delve into the emotional turmoil in the relationships, and explore the initial shock, the grief cycle, and the complex emotions that follow discovering infidelity. Through personal anecdotes and listener comments, they discuss coping strategies, the potential for relationship repair, and the importance of transparency and communication. The conversation also touches on the societal and personal factors that contribute to infidelity and the path to healing and growth after such a betrayal.
Takeaways
The shock of betrayal can trigger a profound grief cycle.
Transparency and open communication are crucial for healing.
Infidelity often stems from unmet needs or personal issues.
Coping strategies vary widely among individuals.
Therapy can facilitate honest dialogue and potential repair.
Personal growth is possible even after deep betrayal.
Understanding the root causes of infidelity is essential.
Healing requires time, patience, and mutual effort.
The journey to recovery can lead to a stronger relationship.
Each story of betrayal is unique and complex.
Chapters
00:00:00 Introduction to Betrayal
00:03:00 The Grief Cycle
00:09:00 Coping Strategies
00:15:00 Path to Healing
00:21:00 Rebuilding Trust
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