The Paradox of Change - There has to be an I before We!
Welcome to The Paradox of Change, where three experienced therapists guide you through the essential truth:
I B4We - You have to have a relationship with yourself before you can have a relationship with others!
We believe in understanding your needs, boundaries, and capacity for connection - because the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself.
Meet Your Guides:
Elliot Burgess - Individual therapist specializing in men's mental health and the foundational "I" work that transforms all relationships
Lottie Passell-Syms - Sex and intimacy specialist dedicated to couples therapy, helping partners navigate the "We" journey through deeper connection and authentic communication and better sex.
Fi Sclif - Individual therapy and growth coaching focusing on mindset, money, and marketing
What You'll Discover:
• How self-discovery leads to relationship mastery
• Lottie's proven couples therapy techniques for rebuilding intimacy and trust
• Practical tools for infidelity recovery, trauma healing, and authentic communication
• Insights into masculinity, femininity, and identity development
• Strategies for navigating divorce, dating after trauma, and co-parenting
• Real conversations about narcissistic abuse recovery and neurodiversity in relationships
Our Philosophy:
Inspired by Carl Rogers' wisdom: "When a client accepts themselves as they are, the curious paradox is that they then change." Whether you're working on yourself individually or as a couple, transformation starts within - heal your relationship with yourself, and watch every other relationship in your life flourish.
Content You Can Expect:
• Deep-dive conversations with mental health experts
• Individual growth episodes ("The I Series") with Elliot, Fi & Lottie
• Couples-focused content ("The We Series") with Lottie's expertise
• "I B4We Deep Dives" - All three tackling complex topics together
• Real stories of resilience and recovery
• Practical tools you can use immediately
Whether you're single and working on yourself, in a relationship needing guidance, or navigating life transitions, we're here as your collaborative guides, not distant experts, but fellow travelers who've walked these paths.
New episodes every two weeks “|” 26+ episodes available now!
Subscribe and join our community of people choosing accountability and growth!
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Episodes
The BIGGEST Misconceptions About Open Relationships
Why Withholding Sex Destroys Relationships
Is This Your Discomfort or Mine? Navigating Disability Conversations POC-31
The One Thing That Predicts Relationship Success
Military Anxiety: From Crippling Dread to Helping Others Heal
Are Men Okay?
Labiaplasty - When the pursuit of perfection becomes dangerous!
Anorexia Survivor and Therapist Explains Signs and Help
Communication and Dating and what to learn
Can a MONTH Without SEX Spark Romance Again? From Room Mates to Romance
Do Happy People Cheat? Our resident sex and intimacy therapist shares all... Episode #023
Modern Man: A Therapist's Guide to Modern Male Mental Health
Infidelity - The Many Faces of Affairs
From Courage to Confidence: Lessons from 2024 on Therapy, Coaching, and Growth
Surviving Christmas and New Year
Can We Be Friends With Our X Lovers?
Men are losing their masculinity
CONFLICT is growth trying to happen. Lets talk about defensiveness
Why the F*CK would I talk about FEELINGS!
Finding Hope in the Darkest Moments Episode
The Road to Authenticity
Coaching and Therapy, what’s the difference with Rum Fotooki
Getting into Couple Work with Lottie and Sam Walton
How to find the love of your life after 60
Loving ourselves and our clients - episode