The Relationship Podcast - There has to be an I before We!
Welcome to The Paradox of Change, where three experienced therapists guide you through the essential truth:
I B4We - You have to have a relationship with yourself before you can have a relationship with others!
We believe in understanding your needs, boundaries, and capacity for connection - because the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself.
Meet Your Guides:
Elliot Burgess - Individual therapist specializing in men's mental health and the foundational "I" work that transforms all relationships
Lottie Passell-Syms - Sex and intimacy specialist dedicated to couples therapy, helping partners navigate the "We" journey through deeper connection and authentic communication and better sex.
Fi Sclif - Individual therapy and growth coaching focusing on mindset, money, and marketing
What You'll Discover:
• How self-discovery leads to relationship mastery
• Lottie's proven couples therapy techniques for rebuilding intimacy and trust
• Practical tools for infidelity recovery, trauma healing, and authentic communication
• Insights into masculinity, femininity, and identity development
• Strategies for navigating divorce, dating after trauma, and co-parenting
• Real conversations about narcissistic abuse recovery and neurodiversity in relationships
Our Philosophy:
Inspired by Carl Rogers' wisdom: "When a client accepts themselves as they are, the curious paradox is that they then change." Whether you're working on yourself individually or as a couple, transformation starts within - heal your relationship with yourself, and watch every other relationship in your life flourish.
Content You Can Expect:
• Deep-dive conversations with mental health experts
• Individual growth episodes ("The I Series") with Elliot, Fi & Lottie
• Couples-focused content ("The We Series") with Lottie's expertise
• "I B4We Deep Dives" - All three tackling complex topics together
• Real stories of resilience and recovery
• Practical tools you can use immediately
Whether you're single and working on yourself, in a relationship needing guidance, or navigating life transitions, we're here as your collaborative guides, not distant experts, but fellow travelers who've walked these paths.
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The Relationship Podcast - There has to be an I before We!
Can a MONTH Without SEX Spark Romance Again? From Room Mates to Romance
From Room Mates to Romance... How can we rescue the SEX and INTIMACY from a potentially failing relationship and rekindle the spark we're looking for into something even better! What if no sex leads to infidelity (https://youtu.be/Gh-qO5lQg5U) and, What if consciously choosing to pause your sex life could be the very thing that saves your relationship?
Summary
This week Lottie and Elliot explore the decline of intimacy in relationships, emphasising the importance of communication and the role of sensuality over sexuality. They discuss the concept of pausing sexual activity as a means to rediscover connection and intimacy, highlighting the significance of radical honesty and trust. Practical steps for couples to rebuild intimacy are also provided, along with insights into the dynamics of limerence and power struggles within relationships.
Takeaways
Communication and intimacy often decline together in relationships.
Pausing sex can lead to deeper emotional connections.
Sensuality can be prioritised over sexual expectations.
Rediscovering touch can enhance intimacy without pressure.
Radical honesty is essential for rebuilding trust.
Limerence can complicate relationship dynamics.
Couples often transition from lovers to roommates due to lack of communication.
Trust levels affect the quality of conversations in relationships.
Practical exercises can help couples reconnect emotionally.
Intimacy is a journey that requires effort and commitment.
Sound Bites
"It's the glue that builds relationship."
"What does sex mean to you?"
"Intimacy is hypnotic."
"We don't talk anymore, we argue mostly."
"The journey from roommates to lovers."
"We need radical honesty, don't we?"
"What do you need from me right now?"
Chapters
00:00 The Decline of Intimacy
02:58 The Power of Pausing Sex
05:56 Exploring Sensuality Over Sexuality
09:04 Rediscovering Connection Through Touch
11:50 The Role of Communication in Relationships
15:00 Understanding Limerence and Power Struggles
17:57 The Journey from Roommates to Lovers
21:01 Radical Honesty and Trust in Relationships
24:05 Practical Steps to Rebuild Intimacy
KEYWORDS: sex, dating advice, love, emotional connection, romance, intimacy, personal growth, dating, communication, love advice, relationships, love stories, romance advice, couple goals, relationship goals, roommates
How to find us: https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange
