The Relationship Podcast - There has to be an I before We!
Welcome to The Paradox of Change, where three experienced therapists guide you through the essential truth:
I B4We - You have to have a relationship with yourself before you can have a relationship with others!
We believe in understanding your needs, boundaries, and capacity for connection - because the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself.
Meet Your Guides:
Elliot Burgess - Individual therapist specializing in men's mental health and the foundational "I" work that transforms all relationships
Lottie Passell-Syms - Sex and intimacy specialist dedicated to couples therapy, helping partners navigate the "We" journey through deeper connection and authentic communication and better sex.
Fi Sclif - Individual therapy and growth coaching focusing on mindset, money, and marketing
What You'll Discover:
• How self-discovery leads to relationship mastery
• Lottie's proven couples therapy techniques for rebuilding intimacy and trust
• Practical tools for infidelity recovery, trauma healing, and authentic communication
• Insights into masculinity, femininity, and identity development
• Strategies for navigating divorce, dating after trauma, and co-parenting
• Real conversations about narcissistic abuse recovery and neurodiversity in relationships
Our Philosophy:
Inspired by Carl Rogers' wisdom: "When a client accepts themselves as they are, the curious paradox is that they then change." Whether you're working on yourself individually or as a couple, transformation starts within - heal your relationship with yourself, and watch every other relationship in your life flourish.
Content You Can Expect:
• Deep-dive conversations with mental health experts
• Individual growth episodes ("The I Series") with Elliot, Fi & Lottie
• Couples-focused content ("The We Series") with Lottie's expertise
• "I B4We Deep Dives" - All three tackling complex topics together
• Real stories of resilience and recovery
• Practical tools you can use immediately
Whether you're single and working on yourself, in a relationship needing guidance, or navigating life transitions, we're here as your collaborative guides, not distant experts, but fellow travelers who've walked these paths.
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The Relationship Podcast - There has to be an I before We!
Are Men Okay?
Is there a Crisis in Masculinity? Elliot and James Penny from Flex Your Feelings podcast, tackle one of today's most controversial topics head-on!
In this honest conversation, we explore:
- Why modern men feel lost and confused about their identity
- How social media algorithms are warping masculine role models
- The shocking truth about what schools are teaching boys about masculinity
- Why "toxic masculinity" is being confused with healthy masculine traits
- The missing positive male role models in today's society
- How to reclaim healthy masculinity without hatred or division
Key Topics Discussed:
The difference between masculinity and misogyny
Controlled aggression vs toxic behavior
Why men are afraid to be protective and assertive
The impact of educational bias on young boys
Finding balance between masculine and feminine energy
Building emotional intelligence while staying true to masculine nature
Timestamps:
00:00 - Is there really a masculinity crisis?
08:57 - How social media is destroying male identity
17:52 - What does healthy masculinity actually look like?
26:33 - The shocking truth about school curriculums
35:44 - Finding the balance between masculine and feminine
45:12 - Where are the positive male role models?
This isn't about promoting toxic behaviour or putting anyone down - it's about understanding how we can support men to be their best selves while respecting everyone in society.
About The Paradox of Change:
We're three qualified therapists (Elliot, Lottie, and Fi) making mental health insights accessible. Our mission is to help you understand yourself better and build healthier relationships.
Connect with us:
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Guest: James Penny from Flex Your Feelings Podcast
#MasculinityCrisis #MensMentalHealth #HealthyMasculinity #ModernMasculinity #MaleIdentity #GenderRoles #SocialMediaImpact #MaleRoleModels #EmotionalIntelligence #MensWellbeing
Welcome to The Paradox of Change, where three experienced therapists guide you. We believe in understanding your needs, because the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself. Individual therapy and growth coaching focusing on mindset, money, and marketing can help with self confidence and personal development, and we are here to help you with relationship advice.
https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange
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