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Infidelity - The Many Faces of Affairs - POC #021
📢 Episode 21: The Truth About Infidelity, Affairs, & Healing Relationships
💔 Why do people cheat? How does limerence (obsessive attraction) impact relationships? Can couples repair trust after an affair? In this episode of The Paradox of Change, Elliot Burgess explores infidelity, emotional affairs, attachment theory, and the complex emotions of betrayal.
🔎 Topics Covered:
✅ Types of Affairs: Emotional, Physical, Financial, & Online Affairs
✅ Attachment Theory & Infidelity: How Childhood Influences Relationship Choices
✅ Limerence & The Science of Attraction: Why Some Affairs Feel Addictive
✅ Healing After Cheating: Steps to Rebuild Trust & Navigate Forgiveness
✅ The Role of Transparency & Boundaries in Preventing Affairs
✅ Gottman’s Four Horsemen of Relationship Breakdown & How to Fix It
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Additional Help:
Esther Perel:
"Rethinking Infidelity: A Talk for Anyone Who Has Ever Loved" (TED Talk):
In this insightful talk, Esther Perel explores the complexities of infidelity, discussing why people cheat and how couples can navigate the aftermath.
Watch the TED Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q
"Infidelity: Why I Wrote a Book About America's Most Controversial Topic":
Perel discusses the ubiquity of infidelity and the importance of addressing it openly.
Read the Article: https://www.estherperel.com/blog/infidelity-why-i-wrote-a-book-about-americas-most-controversial-topic
John Gottman:
"The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling":
Gottman identifies four detrimental communication behaviors that can predict the end of a relationship and offers insights into recognizing and addressing them.
Read the Article: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/
"The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes":
This piece provides strategies to counteract the Four Horsemen behaviors, promoting healthier communication patterns in relationships.
Read the Article: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/
These resources offer profound insights into understanding and improving relationship dynamics, particularly concerning infidelity and communication challenges.
📌 Timestamps:
00:00 Understanding Infidelity: A Complex Topic
02:52 Physical vs Emotional Affairs: What’s the Difference?
05:59 Limerence: The Science of Obsessive Love & Affairs
09:02 Types of Infidelity: Beyond the Obvious Signs
12:06 The Role of Remorse in Repairing Relationships
14:51 Why Too Many Details About an Affair Can Be Harmful
18:02 How Affairs Begin: The Cup of Tea Syndrome
21:13 Online Affairs & The New Challenges in Modern Relationships
23:48 The Importance of Intimacy in Relationship Repair
26:51 Vulnerability & Communication: The Key to Preventing Affairs
31:48 Navigating the Emotional Pain & Grief Cycle of Infidelity
37:25 Forgiveness & Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal
40:54 The Role of Transparency & Boundaries in Relationships
45:27 Can Relationships Grow After Infidelity?
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