The Relationship Podcast - There has to be an I before We!
Welcome to The Paradox of Change, where three experienced therapists guide you through the essential truth:
I B4We - You have to have a relationship with yourself before you can have a relationship with others!
We believe in understanding your needs, boundaries, and capacity for connection - because the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself.
Meet Your Guides:
Elliot Burgess - Individual therapist specializing in men's mental health and the foundational "I" work that transforms all relationships
Lottie Passell-Syms - Sex and intimacy specialist dedicated to couples therapy, helping partners navigate the "We" journey through deeper connection and authentic communication and better sex.
Fi Sclif - Individual therapy and growth coaching focusing on mindset, money, and marketing
What You'll Discover:
• How self-discovery leads to relationship mastery
• Lottie's proven couples therapy techniques for rebuilding intimacy and trust
• Practical tools for infidelity recovery, trauma healing, and authentic communication
• Insights into masculinity, femininity, and identity development
• Strategies for navigating divorce, dating after trauma, and co-parenting
• Real conversations about narcissistic abuse recovery and neurodiversity in relationships
Our Philosophy:
Inspired by Carl Rogers' wisdom: "When a client accepts themselves as they are, the curious paradox is that they then change." Whether you're working on yourself individually or as a couple, transformation starts within - heal your relationship with yourself, and watch every other relationship in your life flourish.
Content You Can Expect:
• Deep-dive conversations with mental health experts
• Individual growth episodes ("The I Series") with Elliot, Fi & Lottie
• Couples-focused content ("The We Series") with Lottie's expertise
• "I B4We Deep Dives" - All three tackling complex topics together
• Real stories of resilience and recovery
• Practical tools you can use immediately
Whether you're single and working on yourself, in a relationship needing guidance, or navigating life transitions, we're here as your collaborative guides, not distant experts, but fellow travelers who've walked these paths.
New episodes every two weeks “|” 26+ episodes available now!
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The Relationship Podcast - There has to be an I before We!
The Road to Authenticity
Geri Carey shares her journey from business and leadership to becoming a therapist, coach, author, and academic researcher in authenticity. The conversation covers topics such as the transition to online therapy, the impact of AI counselling, the process of being cracked open, and the role of therapeutic coaching. Jerry also discusses the benefits of a person-centered approach in her work and how it has influenced her interactions with her family. This conversation explores the integration of coaching in therapy and the role of person-centered therapy. The therapist's dilemma of when to share information and the use of language and role-playing in therapy are discussed. The conversation also delves into the application of person-centered approach in society and the importance of self-leadership. The guest shares insights from writing a book on the self-led life and offers advice for those considering therapy. The conversation concludes with a focus on taking care of mental health and the significance of trusted relationships.
Takeaways
The transition to online therapy has been accelerated by the pandemic and has both benefits and challenges.
AI counseling raises ethical questions and may not be a complete replacement for human therapy.
Making a career change to therapy often involves a personal journey of self-discovery and a desire to help others.
Choosing a therapeutic modality can be challenging, but it is important to find an approach that aligns with one's values and beliefs.
Being cracked open, or experiencing a breakdown, can be a catalyst for personal growth and change.
Therapeutic coaching combines elements of therapy and coaching, allowing for a non-directive approach to helping clients.
A classically trained person-centered approach in therapy and parenting can create a safe and accepting environment for personal growth and self-discovery.
Here’s the back cover for Geri's book.
Reclaim your identity and start living life on your terms. Own your life; chase your joy. Never outsource your story. Live boldly, authentically, and without regret.
Get clear on who you are and Lead a Self-Led Life®️ this book will help you:
· Achieve absolute clarity on your identity.
· Direct your life with unwavering certainty.
· Discover your power, purpose, and peak potential.
· Unlock therapeutic secrets for self-guidance.
· Build a life fuelled by your authenticity.
Take control and lead your own life. Embrace what brings you joy and live with purpose. Your self-leadership is a power—use it to create a life that's truly yours.
Geri's LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/gericarey
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
00:55 Transition to Online Therapy
06:05 Transition from Business to Therapy
08:26 Choosing to be a Therapist
10:22 Choosing a Modality
13:10 Being Cracked Open
19:48 Therapeutic Coaching
23:01 Impact on Family and Parenting
26:55 Therapeutic Coaching and Person-Centered Approach
29:12 Exploring Therapeutic Coaching
30:38 Incorporating Coaching in Therapy
32:01 The Role of Person-Centered Therapy
32:59 The Therapist's Dilemma
34:25 Using Language and Role-Playing in Therapy
35:24 Therapy as Coaching and Education
37:45 Integrating Different Theories
38:13 The Influence of Carl Rogers
40:06 Applying Person-Centered Approach in Society
43:02 The Importance of Self-Leadership
44:57 The Journey of Self-Discovery
46:21 Writing a Book on Self-Led Life
49:38 Encouraging People to Talk and Change
53:50 Taking Care of Mental Health
55:08 Advice for Those Considering Therapy
58:57 Building a Growth Circle
59:57 The Importance of Trusted Relationships
How to find us: https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange
