The Relationship Podcast - There has to be an I before We!
Welcome to The Paradox of Change, where three experienced therapists guide you through the essential truth:
I B4We - You have to have a relationship with yourself before you can have a relationship with others!
We believe in understanding your needs, boundaries, and capacity for connection - because the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself.
Meet Your Guides:
Elliot Burgess - Individual therapist specializing in men's mental health and the foundational "I" work that transforms all relationships
Lottie Passell-Syms - Sex and intimacy specialist dedicated to couples therapy, helping partners navigate the "We" journey through deeper connection and authentic communication and better sex.
Fi Sclif - Individual therapy and growth coaching focusing on mindset, money, and marketing
What You'll Discover:
• How self-discovery leads to relationship mastery
• Lottie's proven couples therapy techniques for rebuilding intimacy and trust
• Practical tools for infidelity recovery, trauma healing, and authentic communication
• Insights into masculinity, femininity, and identity development
• Strategies for navigating divorce, dating after trauma, and co-parenting
• Real conversations about narcissistic abuse recovery and neurodiversity in relationships
Our Philosophy:
Inspired by Carl Rogers' wisdom: "When a client accepts themselves as they are, the curious paradox is that they then change." Whether you're working on yourself individually or as a couple, transformation starts within - heal your relationship with yourself, and watch every other relationship in your life flourish.
Content You Can Expect:
• Deep-dive conversations with mental health experts
• Individual growth episodes ("The I Series") with Elliot, Fi & Lottie
• Couples-focused content ("The We Series") with Lottie's expertise
• "I B4We Deep Dives" - All three tackling complex topics together
• Real stories of resilience and recovery
• Practical tools you can use immediately
Whether you're single and working on yourself, in a relationship needing guidance, or navigating life transitions, we're here as your collaborative guides, not distant experts, but fellow travelers who've walked these paths.
New episodes every two weeks “|” 26+ episodes available now!
Subscribe and join our community of people choosing accountability and growth!
https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange
The Relationship Podcast - There has to be an I before We!
Coaching and Therapy, what’s the difference with Rum Fotooki
Fi and Rum discuss various topics related to relationships, coaching, and therapy. They explore the dynamics of conversations and the importance of sharing more in order to build connections. Elliot shares his journey into coaching and his focus on relationships. They discuss the experience of ghosting and the impact it can have on one's self-esteem. They also touch on the concept of perfection versus potential in relationships and the rise of polyamorous relationships. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the differences between coaching and therapy and the importance of setting boundaries. In this conversation, Elliot Burgess and Ron discuss various topics related to coaching, therapy, personal growth, and making a positive impact on the world. They explore the differences between coaching and therapy, the importance of authenticity, and share personal experiences of hardship and growth. The conversation concludes with a unique activity involving a message in a bottle.
Takeaways
* Coaching and Therapy serve different purposes and it's important to understand the distinctions between the two.
* Authenticity is crucial in personal growth and making a positive impact on the world.
* Key moments of hardship can lead to significant personal growth and transformation.
* Engaging in activities that promote self-reflection and connection can be meaningful and impactful.
Fifi: https://www.instagram.com/fifisclif?igsh=YzlnazI2bXp6Zmpo&utm_source=qr
Rum: https://www.instagram.com/itscoachrum?igsh=MW5lNjE0Z2h6NWZuZg==
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Small Talk
01:28
Sharing More in Conversations
03:03
Purpose of the Podcast
04:36
Journey into Coaching
06:27
Focus on Relationships
07:36
Performance Coaching vs. Relationship Coaching
08:21
The Power of Writing and Blogging
09:08
Understanding Core Beliefs
10:25
The Experience of Ghosting
12:29
Overinvesting in Early Relationships
20:20
Fantasies and Falling in Love
24:23
Perfection vs. Potential in Relationships
28:38
Exploring Polyamorous Relationships
32:13
The Impact of Choice in Dating
38:02
Men's Fantasies in Relationships
41:00
Curiosity in Coaching and Therapy
45:14
Coaching vs. Therapy
48:56
The Importance of Neutral Language in Therapy
53:26
Coaching vs Therapy
56:22
Key Moment of Hardship
58:26
Making the World a Better Place
59:49
Message in a Bottle
How to find us: https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange
